UUUGH!

I have email validation set up and anyone with AOL isn't getting the validation email!

Why is this?

Would I be better setting up the GForum mail server with SMTP or Sendmail?

Finally, a few aol users have reported not being able to post even though they are validated (by me) and logged in? does this make any sense?

I LOVE this product, but this AOL business is bordering on unacceptable.

Sorry for the rant.
Mike