The dates are handled in the include_msgs_list.htm template. If you search for transform_date, you'll find the line where it does it. Change the second argument ("%m%/%dd% %h%:%MM% %tt%"), to "%mmm%/%dd% %h%:%MM% %tt%" and that should give you what you want.
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